Today is a far cry from what we hoped for and expected from 2020.
After Australia’s disastrous summer of bushfires, the unprecedented upheaval of the COVID-19 pandemic has seen serious social and economic effects for us individually and collectively.
We tend to lose hope when we can’t see a pathway to our goals.
At a time like this, it’s important we rethink our goals to create and maintain hope.
Why is hope important?
Hope provides a positive vision for the future about what’s possible, motivating us to look forward. While it’s an optimistic state of mind, hope can emerge from distressing and even tragic situations.
Conversely, people with high levels of hope have better physical and mental health.
A lot of us are probably feeling a lack of hope right now
To have hope, it’s vital we feel a sense of meaning in our lives. Particularly during a crisis, having meaning or purpose can protect our mental health.
In recent months, two things that give our life meaning – work and connections with friends and family – might have been disrupted.
And while necessary to prevent the spread of COVID-19, social distancing measures have meant many of the things we looked forward to – from holidays to going to the theatre to simply having dinner at a restaurant – were off, in favour of staying at home.
All of this brings uncertainty and throws our plans into jeopardy.
Adjusting our goals
To work through grief and hopelessness, we need to modify our goals to ensure they’re realistic within the “new normal”, and we have a clear pathway to achieving them.
For example, you might have been saving for a big family trip. But now – due to financial challenges, or travel restrictions, or both – it will be more realistic to plan a holiday in a nearby caravan park.
It’s important to focus not only on long-term hopes, but on the short term too. If we focus too much on the future, we can lose sight of what’s achievable and important to us now.
We should ask ourselves, what can we reasonably do this week or next month within current restrictions?
Things that are important to us – such as family, friends and career – are unlikely to change, but we may need to find new ways to connect with loved ones or feel accomplished in our jobs. For example, we might spend more time socialising using digital technologies rather than face-to-face.
We can even think about setting goals daily. How can we do something to enact our values each day? This could be as simple as a kind gesture towards a loved one or work colleague.
Even as restrictions ease, we worry about the potential for virus outbreaks.
Meanwhile, people in financial trouble won’t simply recover overnight, and may face added stress at the prospect of the government ending its support programs.
And people who have experienced mental health problems during the pandemic will need ongoing support.
Fear can get in the way of identifying pathways to achieving our hopes. So to nurture hope we must recognise, acknowledge and address our fears.
If this all feels like a lot, setting a goal such as going for walk during the day can give us space to reflect.
Further, research shows engaging in mindfulness meditation and focusing on the present can reduce our stress and increase our sense of hope.
Sharing your hopes with trusted others means you’re supported not only to dream of exciting things, but also to make these things happen.
We’re actually programmed to share in each others’ hopes and dreams. Vicarious hope is the desire for something positive to happen to someone else. It switches our attention to how our actions might contribute to other people’s hopes as well as our own.
Despite the uncertainty associated with COVID-19, over recent months we’ve seen communities around the world generating hope.
This speaks to a social world which feels an ongoing responsibility to focus on hope.